What is your view on sites such as eharmony? I believe fully that a woman should be pursued, and trust in the Lord for her “fairytale”. But a girlfriend of mine seems to think that God wants her to be proactive in her search for a husband, and this is the way she is choosing to do it. She says that she is lonely, and I believe that this is a sign that she probably needs to be relying more on Christ’s love before she will be ready to love a husband. Do you agree? and if so, where is the scripture to back this up?
My Answer:
If you need a verse that says though shall not use e-harmony. I do not have one but I will do my best to explain my stance on this. As far as e-harmony or internet dating I do not hate it but I do not love it. I think it is a heart issue and some people can do it and their hearts are right. However I think most people who do it have a wrong heart and are doing it because they do not trust God and they are worshipping relationship. They are giving there whole selves to the worship of having a man or a woman. So they are giving their money, time, and effort to getting married because they do not think their lives are complete unless they are married. The other thing is, like you said, she does not trust God to provide for her a husband and she believes that God does not care and wants her to make it happen in her own strength and wisdom.
I do not hate it but I do not love it. I think it is a heart issue so my thing would be that they need to let the Holy Spirit evaluate their heart.
It sounds like your friend’s use of the site is out of lonliness, and unrelated to your belief on a woman needing to be 100% pursued…does your friend even have that same belief if she wasn’t lonely or is that belief yours?
BTW, coming from a man, i think a man (not a boy) will pursue a woman, i agree… but if its to the point where they’re putting in ALL the effort, or the woman just thinks they’re so deserving, or full of themself and there’s no pursueing and giving on her part, or its not required of her.. its boring, gets old, and is a turn off. I apologize if thats too blunt for you, but That’s an honest opinion. if it helps, good, if it doesn’t, don’t take it to heart.
Personally, i believe God will put a woman in my life when HE knows the time is right for me, not when I think the time is right or i feel lonely. That’s ME PERSONALLY (everyone’s different) But I don’t believe there’s 1 “soul mate” that I HAVE to be with, I think he’ll give me a choice.
…..it scares me sometimes when i see women talk of a “fairytale” husband and be spoiled and nothing less (that’s disney brainwashing you, not The Bible).Marriage MUST be based off of love, and you MUST know how to love before getting into it, in my brutally honest humble opinion
I’d encourage you to read in the Bible about Love and what Love REALLY is in God’s eyes. because that’s what a relationship needs to be based off of. not any one person’s selfish desire for their ideal perfect mate.
Take a Look at 1 Corinthians 13, 2 John verse 6, for insight into Love
Also, 1 Corinthians 7 for some instructions and insight into what is required and expected of marriage in God’s eyes.
Drew,
You are crazy and we miss you dude. Marriage is rooted in love and it is work and if you are going to choose then you need to give God a huge say in the process… and who you choose is the one that God has for you and no re-choosing!!! Bless ya man
Believe me i miss you all there too.
Its still crazy to me that I realize a Godly marriage is the only way to go. Being around everyone at LCC started to change my opinions, open my mind and heart in this area… God’s done many things in this area of my life personally. But I think the most pivotal in my acceptance of marriage was what God showed me through Mark Driscoll’s Peasant Princess series.
Hope you all are doing well there and i’ll see you all soon.
Dude,
It was great to see your brother at service on sunday. I hope we do see you soon!!! Bless you man