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A letter to pastorinabox.com

I wrote a article a couple days ago about my brother pastorinabox.com and I was so blessed by this.

This is a letter posted on kowalker.com By Erik Kowalker to Ben Dailey (pastorinbox.com)

I would like to take this opportunity here on my blog to issue a public apology to Pastor Ben Dailey of Calvary Church in Irving, TX.

I’m sorry for using my blog as a platform to publicly attack Pastor Ben’s attempt to reach the unconverted during the Easter weekend. Even though I strongly disagree with the method Pastor Ben is using to bring 4000 visitors to his church, I never should have aired my disagreements publicly like this. I feel convicted by the Holy Spirit, my conscience is beyond pricked, I am very embarrassed and quite honestly, humiliated by my actions.

I want to also apologize specifically to Pastor Ben’s wife, Kim, for putting her through this difficult situation of feeling the need to defend her husband against my public opinions. The grief and heartache I caused her makes me sick to my stomach. I apologize to Ben’s family, friends, church parishioners, and all other Christians for my carnal actions these past few days. I have since removed the two posts that have caused such a terrible stir in the blog world. If you have it in your heart to forgive me, thank you kindly.

Humbly in Christ,

- Erik Kowalker

My response:

I sat here for 10 minutes writing and then erasing what I wrote over and over again.  Erik is a college friend of mine that I always looked up to.  He was the kind of guy that everyone liked to be around with his infectious smile and quick humor.  We lost track of each other for 10 years or so and then found each other in the blog world because of our like doctrinal beliefs.  I immediatly made it a habit to go read his articles which were always enlightend, humorous, and very Christ centered. When we clashed on this pastorinabox.com deal it was a first for sure.

I really do not know what to write except I am humbled and all the sudden keenly aware of my own pride, stupidity, and sharp tongue.  When I see a dear brother humble himself and openly admit fault it makes me not want to forgive him but to get down with him and start repenting.  I want you to know that I love you Erik and respect your opinion and know how extremely Christ like it was to do what you did.  This is the kind of men I want to be around and gleen from, men who are strong in there convictions and even stronger in there understanding of their need of the grace of Jesus.  These are the kind of actions that make me hate my pride more and yearn to be more like Christ.  Thank you Erik for being an example to me of Jesus and may God exalt you in your humilty.

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  1. Leslie says

    I agree. What an example!

    Thank you, so much, for sharing.

  2. Veronica says

    Amen! What a blessing!!!!

  3. Anon says

    So many times I've been convicted of my own selfishness, or pride or arrogance, or whatever it might be. And so many times I confess them and ask forgiveness…….in the quiet of my own home, alone. Rarely do I confess openly and publicly ask forgiveness. And, rarely do I hear or see of someone else who does…..I don't want to be one of those Christians that stand on the street corner and wails for forgiveness, but I want to be the kind of Christian that will humble herself and approach those that I've wronged and ask for their forgiveness, as well as the Lord's. Mr. Kowalker, I thank you for providing that example.



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